r/MoralityScaling • u/C_monden • 16h ago
morality of publicly posting personal photos someone has sent you without consent?
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u/Appropriate_Gur_5888 16h ago
Oh oh he’s not a happy bunny 🤣.
Why do people do this dumb ass stuff in 2026
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u/MyJortsGotCrud 14h ago
Oof you can almost see his baby carrot.
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u/hotelpopcornceiling 14h ago
I didn't click on the picture so I only saw not even to his nipple. Had no idea what you were taping about. Lol
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u/Few_Chocolate_7655 5h ago
IT guy here who's seen it all and more.
My 5. Is people like this don't get technology, and they think they are slick. It's a terrible mix.
I had a older customer once and I had to remote into her computer as she felt she was hacked. She told me "I don't mind if you look at my only fans photos while your looking around"
Gross.
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u/WiglyWorm 15h ago
That's what Grindr is for.
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u/xJellySerelle 14h ago
That's true, but even on apps like Grindr, consent still matters. Sharing photos without permission can really cross a line.
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u/Johnnywritingsstuff 14h ago
It’s really just basic respect and consent, neither of which requires an IQ test.
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u/IllCelebration4912 16h ago
I’ve never understood why dudes do this
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u/balirosa 16h ago
They use too many dating apps and have a low iq. It’s like porn addicts walking the streets expecting everyone doing cable repair work to be a sex worker.
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u/PearFlies 15h ago
in what way are dating apps receptive to this type of behavior?
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u/RobartArts 15h ago
Depends on the app...
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u/intoxicatedhamster 14h ago
90% of Grindr conversations open with a dick pic.
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u/Burn-Alt 11h ago
speaking about men in general like this is both objectively wrong and subjectively offensive. why?
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u/SofubiShogun 14h ago
You' tellin' me you're actually out here layin' cable and not "layin' cable?"
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u/Woeful_Jesse 14h ago
My guess was always they genuinely think women's brains think the same as them and that all it takes is a visual stimuli to garner sexual intrigue
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u/justaydogg 14h ago
Its this. They dont realize women dont get turned on the same way men do. Theres a reason why men would rather watch porn and women read it
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u/Jimble_kimbl3 14h ago
So guys should send a dick story instead of a pic. I’ll get the word out.
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u/SofubiShogun 14h ago
Shhhh... you're going to have men out here acting like Oprah. You get a dick story, you get a dick story, and you get a dick story....
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u/utacr 13h ago
Older gay men do this shit too. It’s not a matter of the recipient’s gender, it has everything to do with the 50+ year old no filter zero awareness asshole on the other end.
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u/AdmiralStickyLegs 12h ago
Presumably it worked at one point, when they were young and hot. So they kept doing it, even as the response rate fell. Now they try it and it doesnt work and they think "What the f is wrong with everyone these days? People were so much friendlier in the past"
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u/StrangelyBrown 10h ago
Yep, it's a failure of empathy, to just think that 'I would want them to do that, therefore they must want me to do that'. When they could, even without empathy, google 'Do women generally want unsolicited pictures of male bodies' and find the general consensus.
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u/Ok_Molasses9176 15h ago
You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take?
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u/Accomplished-Mix-745 15h ago
That math does not exclude the possibility of missing 100% of the shots you do take as well
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u/BookAcceptable619 14h ago
Some dudes just miss 100% of shots anyway.
It's just a waste of energy for everyone.
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u/ConsiderationTrue477 16h ago
I want to know their success rate. Like a legit statistical study.
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u/metamorphosis___ 13h ago
Women do it too tbf men just are very possessive and treat it like it’s their trophy
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u/RDUKE7777777 9h ago
Have you ever met legit dumb people? People that refuse (or are unable) to believe the world possibly works in different ways than they think?
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u/PowerfulElevatorLift 15h ago edited 14h ago
Wanted to be friendly without the underwear and topless is insane
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u/Feisty-Age9687 14h ago
No, you misunderstood. He’s the kind of guy who would give you the shirt off his back. /s
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u/MidlightStar 16h ago
Moral, some of you dudes need public shaming for grotesque behavior.
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u/ShadowConstruct 16h ago
Yeah I kinda figure If you're going to put yourself out there like that you just might have it come back to bite you. Maybe there would be some positive growth as a result. Or at the very least a lesson learned.
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u/PrednisoneFarts 12h ago
Careful, you're gonna piss off the incels in this sub. Which is like 90 percent of this sub lmao
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u/Hot_Cutie_1247 16h ago
Neutral, if they didn't care about the consent of the person they were sending the pic to, why should they care about theirs?
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u/StirFry__InaWok 13h ago
immoral actions don't just cancel out like that.
if a person gets a home intruder threatening them with a deadly weapon but manages to disarm and subdue them, do you think it would be morally neutral for the homeowner to then rape the captive home intruder? if so, how long does this neutral rape last before it becomes immoral? a few days? weeks?
maybe you don't consider home intrusion and robbery with a deadly weapon to be proportional to rape, but I think you get what I mean.
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u/No_Pattern_5158 13h ago
But in his profile pic it looks like he has a wife and she deserves consent too so this was the best way to inform her
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u/stanknotes 15h ago
NAH. It is not immoral to expose a creepy.
This is not friendly. And why would an old man sent this to a "young girl." His words. Not mine.
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u/bigtoeupmyass 16h ago
He sent it to a stranger unprompted... she's in the right
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u/National_Phase_3477 13h ago
If you send a picture of yourself to a stranger randomly without them asking you to then I think it’s fair that they have the right to share the photo with the internet. Regardless of what state of undress you are in. If you don’t want someone to share your pictures don’t send that to random people on the internet…
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u/Any_Table9811 4h ago
This is not even remotely true. Just because someone harasses you doesn’t mean you can defame and harass them back. This is similar to revenge porn cases.
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u/PahkYaCahh 4h ago
I do agree with what you're saying, but at the end of the day I bet you he won't do this again to someone else. This will also spread the word to don't do this to all the would be dick pic bandits out there. Sometimes you have to fight fire with fire. However, I don't think it's fair that the lady in his profile pic finds out the hard way. Not that I get dick pics, I'm married and a dude so eeww. But I would have researched the guy found the woman in the picture and send it to her directly without publicly humiliating him. That turmoil at home would be enough to stop him directly from considering doing that again wether he is with that person in the picture or not anymore. There's also the consideration of if this is a first time thing or if he was repeatedly doing it to her. Even the first time is not called for but if she told him to stop and he continued yes absolutely he gets the treatment
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u/IsadorCZ 15m ago
Ok. Now change the genders...
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u/National_Phase_3477 11m ago
Yeh it’s still moral if a lass sends her pics of her minge to a rando on the internet without their consent. You don’t send a picture to someone you don’t know unprompted and just assume there not going to share it. These are boundaries you agree before you send the pic. If you violate someone else’s boundaries by sending a pic without there consent then you can’t be offended when they do the same back. It’s just I don’t know any woman who actually would do that…
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u/IsadorCZ 10m ago
Thanks. I sadly knew a few. I just can't picture myself of posting it online for everyone to see?
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u/AggravatingAgency599 15h ago
Expose all the creeps. Always the old dudes with wife in the profile pic.
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u/Yoloswaggins97 13h ago
The amount of weirdos on this sub defending this man is mental. Please speak to at least one woman in your life
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u/cabanel_monet 16h ago
Moral.
My EULA states any pic u send me I own the rights to use them and distribute them as I wish.
Ohh sorry I forgot to send my EULA, cuz U forgot to ask Consent.
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u/JJandeRR 15h ago
I agree with this, but it goes for everything. If you post your pic online, whether you're a woman or man, no need to complain when it gets spread by perverts or trolls. This was common sense 20 years ago, now people just put anything personal online it feels like
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u/OtterInsanity23 15h ago
I’d say very immoral to send unsolicited pictures like that, and only slightly immoral to post them publicly.
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u/Able-Reaction-5314 16h ago
if that girl does onlyfans, then this is neutral evil -- I am sexually assaulted by onlyfans thots against my will wherever I go on the internet
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u/Big_Session5707 13h ago
I actually think there's a law against posting someone's nudes without consent
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u/Dull-Delay6749 12h ago
If a guy did this to a woman this comment section would look totally different
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u/Mundane_History_7306 6h ago
Not a nude or anything that sensitive and he send it to her willingly so moral,
its almost a gift in a way, you can’t really get mad at someone for doing what they want with the gift you gave them to impress them? Seduce them? And then get rejected
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u/Fucker_Of_Destiny 33m ago
Her account is suspended for violating the TOS, but from my experience if someone had a jewel/diamond in their name/bio it means they are usually a sex worker.
So considering her account is suspended, and she has the diamond, there’s a reasonable chance that this wasn’t just a random man messaging a random girl, but in fact a potential client messaging a SW.
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u/isuckhips 16h ago
That's illegal. You idiots are going to get someone locked up. Just block the wannabe fucker and move on. You're not the Humilator.
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u/dontdropducks 16h ago
I mean, morally I think it’s totally fine. If not good because it likely stops further actions like this in the future.
Legally, however, I wouldn’t be surprised if scumbags who sent shit like this without permission would be able to make a revenge porn argument in court.
That said, if you send someone something like this without consent, I don’t feel bad in the slightest if evidence of your misdeeds is made public. It’s much more than just flirting.
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u/metamorphosis___ 13h ago
Genuine question, if a women sends an unsolicited nude (extremely rare) would you find it immoral to spread it and shame her?
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u/dontdropducks 13h ago
No. Sending unsolicited nudes is morally wrong regardless of who is doing it and this warning people about someone doing it is morally good.
Shaming them insures there is punishment for an improper sexual action.
It’s funny, I’ve had a similar type of situation happen in the past. I just told the lady I wasn’t interested and that she shouldn’t do it. But I wouldn’t blame someone for publicly shaming someone who sent that.
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u/stackens 15h ago
Idk how revenge porn is legally defined but I don’t think unsolicited pics you sent to a stranger qualify
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u/dontdropducks 14h ago
I would hope they don’t but knowing how many loopholes exist is the US legal system I wouldn’t be surprised lol
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u/savvy-librarian 15h ago
An image like this does not meet the lawful standard for what is defined as pornography. At least not in the US anyway.
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u/dontdropducks 15h ago
I’m assuming there’s more that was cut off. But if there isn’t then yeah it wouldn’t qualify as anything like that legally.
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u/Big-Dot-9084 14h ago
Justifiable but immoral. Its still posting personal pictures, but both people in there immoral. Just because the sender is worse doesn't make the leaking of personal pictures moral.
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u/dmcent54 13h ago
"My actions shouldn't have consequences" should be the title of this sub, because y'all argue that everything is immoral when it is inherently not immoral. The paradox of tolerance is that to tolerate the intolerant causes a rise in intolerance. Extrapolate that how you will.
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u/wolfdukex 13h ago
How private can they be if they're sending them to strangers?
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u/AkodoRyu 16h ago
I'm opposed to posting private correspondence in general. Send it to his wife if you feel indignant on her behalf, but posting to the general public, whether photos or any other identifiable information is immoral.
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u/New-Assumption-3836 15h ago
The offense isn't just to his wife but to the person who was harassed unprompted by this man. Correspondence implies the communication was two-way he just sent that on his own. The consequences of unwanted advances should be his to deal with, not with a victim to mitigate
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u/Roachland 16h ago
Bot or Pedo.
Blurred lines here OP.
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u/Sir_Gerald_Nosehairs 15h ago
"I only wanted to be a bit friendly with you in a nice way" by sending you a nude picture?
What's wrong with a funny meme or a picture of a dog??
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u/Expensive_Range7204 15h ago
Idk
I see a lot of people arguing that is okey to publicly shame pepole for sending such pictures since they dont get consent first.
And well i do agree that you shud get consent particularly before you send pictures of genitalia.
But at the same time i dont think publicly shaming people is okey, and i suspect that if men publicly shamed women for sending nude pictures to them the reaction would be diffrent.
Now i understand that it is rarer that women do this but it does happen.
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u/Frylock_dontDM 13h ago
Someone explain to me how this wouldn't be considered revenge porn
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u/ReleaseMyToast 16h ago
Immoral and a crime if he's nude there. If he's not, neutral, I guess. Never send anything you would be ashamed to see on the front page of the newspaper
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u/chaos0720 16h ago
Meanwhile in another timeline, this girl is seducing creepy old men so she has stuff to post because she needs internet validation for her deep rooted insecurities.
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u/Billthegifter 16h ago
Moral.
I would be shocked If this person had any serious discussion around "Mind If I send you photos of me naked?"
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u/ghost_ware 15h ago
moral if it was unprompted, immoral if there was a context where it genuinely made sense. I assume it was the first one tho
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u/HislersHero 14h ago
Moral.
Don't want pictures like that shared or posted, don't send pictures like this to random women.
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u/infamouspaghetti 14h ago
Moral. He even said so himself aint not cool is a double negative so it’s cool to do this.
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u/Think-Location3830 14h ago
If it’s unsolicited then absolutely expose them.
If it’s private between two people and they have a falling out then doing it makes you an asshole.
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u/TheChudWhisperer 14h ago
This gives off the same energy as all of those people posting on Facebook that they don't consent to their data being collected.
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u/Icy-Plan145 14h ago
If it was unsolicited then moral. If there was something that led up to it and it was expected then immoral
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u/REEEEEEDDDDDD 12h ago
Not much info to go on but if the guy just randomly sent that picture it's not really personal photo. If you're not okay with a picture being posted publicly don't send it to strangers.
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u/SirPersonal8626 12h ago
Sending pictures without consent is immoral but that doesn’t give the right to do this.
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u/Drew_S_05 11h ago
I mean, it doesn't show anything explicit, and there are already other photos of him online, so I don't really think it's that bad. Also, his profile picture looks like he may already be married, so karma lol
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u/hoopinhob 10h ago
First off, congrats on presenting a morality scaling post that isn’t in bad faith or sarcastic. I can’t make up my mind on this.
It’s immoral to send photos like this to somebody without their consent, but I’m not sure that I’d say it’s moral to try and publicly punish them like this.
But also, do I care at all that it happened and this (maybe married? somebody is in that profile pic w/him) older man messaging a young girl FAFO? No.
So I guess immoral but not enough that I care.
Edit: wtf is a happy bunny?
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u/fancypantsmiss 9h ago
I was told in self defense class that if someone flashes you, publicly call them out and point at them so everyone knows.
This just looks like an online version of it lmao
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u/Mephistocheles 8h ago
I think if someone is simultaneously this creepy and this stupid, deciding to post the pic online is pretty moral, especially because if he's done this to one girl he's done it to others, and nothing is probably going to stop him from continuing to do it unless there is some kind of pushback or consequence.
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u/Yet-Another-ScrewUp 6h ago
In my view once you send a photo to someone you make that photo their property to with as they wish. Now I get people may have a long drawn out discussion about that pov but hear me out....
You can not control what another person does with photos once they are sent, especially unsolicited photos. So why would you take the risk and send them in the first place? I swear I have heard of group chats where women share and rate unsolicited dick pics, kinda like a wall of shame so to speak.
Sooooo if you don't want risky photos being "leaked" on the web then maybe you shouldn't send risky photos in the first place. It's like people forget that they are the creator of the situations they find themselves in.
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u/cognitiveglitch 4h ago
Posting it might be slightly immoral but sending it in the first place definitely was.
I have no problem with this level of immoral in response.
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u/ThatKindaWriter 4h ago
I think the answer to the actual question depends on context.
In this case, the context appears to be the old, naked guy was giving the woman unwanted attention and sending similarly unwanted personal pics.
Moral.
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u/Samus_Aram 4h ago
This guy is such a repulsive liar and cheater 🤮 Exposing him so he can't fool anyone anymore is the basic moral thing to do
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u/Apollo114892 4h ago edited 3h ago
Immoral since she can just block him and move on. Moral if she blocked him and he still found a way to keep messaging and she explicitly told him to stop contacting her.
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u/Low_Independence339 4h ago
Once the pictures out on the internet You don't have control over how it circulates.
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u/Dessy104 3h ago
If you send something without me asking then you’re already sending to a stranger. What’s the problem with a few more?
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u/HeyPrettyLadyMaam 3h ago
I'm fucking dying.......I'm not a happy bunny wtf 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣. So glad I quit any social media (besides reddit where for 2+ years my inbox has been blissfully dick free) so I don't have to screen stupid, gross messages like this anymore.
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u/TemporaryUser66 3h ago
He sent the photo to a public platform. It stopped being private the second it left his phone.
100% moral. Don't be a disgusting pervert online if you don't want to be called out.
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u/alwayslookleft 55m ago
Harmless to post it but immoral to keep it up after being asked to take it down
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u/Noctpanda 36m ago
Sending someone that photo unsolicited is already gross, and then proceeding to call them "young girl" is just icing on the cake. Dude look at yourself
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u/Dukklings 16h ago
Immoral. This is why I tell people to never send explicit photos of themselves to anybody. Not even their own boyfriends or girlfriends or spouses or whatever else. Because the instant they get angry you have given them all the leverage they will ever need. And that's not even the worst version of the scenario that could play out. People hate me for saying it but there is no girl. There is no cute boy. And you're not that attractive. Half the time it's a grown sweaty man who wants what is in your wallet or is going to use that one photo to get you to do far worse. Then leak it anyway. People asking to see you down there or up there is nothing but a red flag. Don't take the bait.
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u/hungLink42069 14h ago
In this case, it seems like the image was sent to a young woman without consent.
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u/Dukklings 14h ago
That's disgusting. She should block and report. Distributing the pic like that could actually land her in trouble. Might even be a felony. Not to mention getting banned from the platform.
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u/Illustrious-Aside442 16h ago
Both actions were immoral, him sending and then her publicly shaming. Two wrongs don’t make a right
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u/Icy_Judge8250 16h ago
That is a little more than friendly guy